How do you improve yourself after going through so much hardship? What does it even mean to be a better person, especially after surviving abuse?
Trauma impacts us. It causes us to place judgements on others. We’ve become slow to trust. And when we think of being the best person we can be—it’s often nonjudgemental and believing everyone has pure intentions.
That’s not how we came to see the world, though. After abuse, we saw the dark side of humanity and we naturally came to distrust others. These judgements protect us!
It doesn’t make you a bad person to have these survival patterns in your mind.
You were hurt by people who did have ill intentions and the ways you now judge and distrust others is a reflection of that.
So what does it mean to become a better person after abuse, without erasing the real impact it had on you?
Well, there are a few key perspectives to take on—and this episode talks about them all. Give it a watch!
Love yourself more with: Self Compassion: The Art of Loving Yourself Louder
Don’t miss these highlights:
What you need to love about yourself after abuse [1:20]
How choosing to be the best version of you can change the world [2:01]
The true traits of being a better person (<—real, achievable things!) [2:25]
Past abuse has not taken away your ability to become the best you. You just have to choose to embrace the new truth of your life and build up your potential from there.
I want to encourage you to start changing your life right now. What is that image of your best self?
Share a clip of that with me in the comments, and then tell me how exactly you’re going to start working towards becoming this even more amazing version of you!
Then, take a second to inspire the other survivors in your life by sharing this video. Everyone deserves to see how much beauty they already bring the world, and to know that they can become their best selves even after abuse.