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Rejecting Tough Emotions? Empower Yourself with Radical Acceptance

Do you feel like a bad person for holding sadness, anger, or shame? Like there is something wrong with you when you feel them? When you reject these emotions, you reject yourself. Your authenticity. Your Truth. You hold the most divine love just out of reach, simply by pushing away these feelings.

When you pull them close and give them an inner hug, this compassion will come flooding back. It’s through radical acceptance that we return this love to ourselves.

Radical acceptance is gentle, but powerful. Emotions soften. Even the most difficult will wash over you like a gentle stream—not raging rapids.

This whole idea reminds me of the serenity prayer:

“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”

Overtime with hard work and lots of effort, you might be able to alter an emotion’s presence in your life. But they are slow to budge. So what should you do in the meantime, when you have to accept that you cannot change it in that moment?

Don’t spend your precious energy pushing that emotion away. It has a healthy place within you. Let it be.

All emotions have a place in your life. They all deserve radical acceptance and unconditional love.

Acceptance prevents you from spending needless energy on the things you can’t change. That means, instead of trying to push away an emotion that won’t budge, you can put that energy towards romance. Towards your career. Towards building a home you love or coping with your mental illness better.

It is not surrendering your power to affect change in your life. Instead, radical acceptance strengthens and empowers you. It does not let your emotions overpower you—instead it brings you the power to handle all of them.

All emotions have a place in your life. They have a purpose. And they all deserve your love. It doesn’t matter if an emotion is rational or irrational—it’s there. It’s within you. And it deserves all the compassion you can muster.

In this episode, I share the healing process of radical acceptance in the face of overwhelming emotions. You will learn to love yourself in the midst of any experience. You’ll clearly see what to accept, what to change, and you’ll know how to tell the difference.

As soon as you apply radical acceptance to your emotions, you can apply it to anything, like both the wonderful and difficult parts of life. Empowerment will unfold in hundreds of new directions.

Feel guilty about your emotions? Break free from that here!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the curious topic of radical acceptance. 

In the comments below answer: What is one emotion you struggle to accept? And what is one action you can take to better accept that emotion?

I can’t wait to read your stunning insights! When you add your voice to this conversation, you help to transform the world for all of us living with mental illness.

If you want to help a friend love themselves more—please share this blog with them too. They may find this concept so meaningful and healing, more than you could have anticipated when you linked them to this.

Truly, a big thanks from me to you for being here and discovering the healing power of radical acceptance. I hope it’s made an impact on how you treat all your emotions. And, don’t forget, give that little hand on a heart exercise a try soon!

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  1. Melissa Kent

    I struggle to accept a sense of failure. As if failure is not okay. As if failure is the end of it all. Its funny just how many things boil down to a sense of failure too. Even in a basic primal way. Its funny how once you accept this narrative everything does end. Life flow is halted. I am not allowing my sense of failure guide me, inspire me and allow me to move forward in a better way. Perhaps a sense of failure is really just a sense of knowing, coupled with a sense of shame or regret. Regrets are honest. But shame is something else. A bad seed placed in me. I have to root shame from my sense of knowing something, anything, is not enough. I have to let knowing be my guide. — many Thanks to you Arien ????????

    • Melissa Kent

      Ild like to specify i should word this as “my shame” is something else. As in these circumstances. I’m not referring to all shame, or shame in general. But that pervasive shame that you know and feel in your bones/ gut is toxic. The shame that cuts you off from your true self.

      • Arien Smith

        Yes, I totally get that! When I think of shame, that’s what I imagine. Guilt is what I see as a sort of…healthy regret? Like honestly feeling unhappy about something we did so we can motivate ourselves to change similar things in the future.

    • Arien Smith

      Ah, I can completely related, Melissa! Failure, especially when there was trauma in the past, was sometimes a terrifying thing. It meant someone we loved shaming us or even hurting us–so no wonder we learned to avoid it at all costs.

      Shame is a very difficult and heavy emotion. I actually talk a lot about it in my recent and soon to be upcoming blogs, so I’d really encourage you to check those out! I have a great exercise on talking with internalized shame so that it’s no longer as painful and heavy. And, of course, I’d always love to hop on a call here if you want to discuss this one-on-one. 🙂


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