Glad 2019 is here? I think we’re all ready to move on from last year. It’s a time for new growth and happiness.
Joy is a great goal to go after. In fact, it’s the foundation for my work…but that doesn’t mean it is immune to being unbalanced. It’s possible to be too happy.
When us survivors have struggled for so long, it’s natural for us to grip tight to any good feelings we do get. Sometimes we’ll even make the critical mistake of trying to force happiness on top of other emotions.
Here’s how you can tell if you’ve done this:
Ever been in a situation where something really bad happens and you try to “silver line” it? Like your pet just passed away, but it’s a nice day out, so you try to force yourself to feel happy about that nice day and ignore the loss of your companion?
I’ve done this bunches of time and, honestly, being too happy cost me years in my recovery. I want to save you from making the same mistake—so that’s why I created this video.
Give it a watch to make sure you don’t miss out on discovering:
The difference between healthy optimism and the unhealthy kind [0:58]
Why it’s possible to be too happy, and how it can hinder your recovery [2:02]
Where on this scale of not enough to way too much optimism do you tend to be? How will you find more balance in your life (like through gratitude practices or acceptance of difficult experiences)?
It’s a real joy when you take the time to read this blog—and I love when you engage too! So, if you have thoughts, go ahead and share them right below. I’m certain your beautiful mind will inspire others too.
Before you go, think of one person who struggles to find the right balance of happiness too. Consider sending the blog directly to them, since this gentle nudge may save them years of hard work.
It’s the start of a new year, so joy should definitely be a priority—but it needs to stay balanced too. Work on this and your recovery from abuse will be so much easier.