Believe in Your Brilliance and Tame Your Inner Critic

Our inner critic can be one of the harshest voices we hear in the world. It might tell us that we don’t accomplish enough, we’ll never live the life we want to, or that we don’t deserve love. Sometimes it scolds us, tells us we deserve something that we definitely don’t, or flat out lies to us about our abilities.

Honestly, I think this pesky voice speaks with even more gusto in the minds of those of us living with mental illness.

I used to have a loud and bold inner critic. It was like, with every endeavor, there was a voice telling me I’d never make it. I argued against it, treating it like an old and stubborn friend, and finally it started to subside. Now this voice is a helpful one of caution. It warns me of potential obstacles and helps me overcome challenges, instead of creating more challenges in the first place.

Your inner confidant tells the truth, your inner critic does not

If your inner critic talks loud and clear, this episode is for you. There’s a powerful message about believing in yourself, then a strategy to quiet this self-defeating voice. With your inner critic tamed, you can finally start chasing down the life you’ve dreamed of living.

Just remember, what your inner critic says isn’t true. You’re brilliant. You’re incredible. Everything you want to achieve is possible. I have faith in you, and you definitely deserve to have faith in yourself too.

It would mean a lot to me and everyone else who reads this blog if you’d leave a comment below.

What self-defeating belief do you want to overcome? Feel free to add a long list of why exactly your inner critic is false!

You deserve to live a fantastic life and I don’t want your inner critic to stop you a second longer. I also want you to know that you’re so brave for facing this inner critic and continuing to try again and again, day in and day out. That’s real strength, my friend.

Take care, and don’t hesitate to forward this episode on to a loved one too!

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  • Jessie
    April 19, 2017 at 12:03 pm

    Love this! Our inner self can be the worst!

  • Sharon T McLaughlin MD FACS
    April 19, 2017 at 1:24 pm

    You do a fabulous job with your videos, they are very positive.

  • angela
    April 19, 2017 at 7:50 pm

    For every negative comment I my inner critic makes, I try to find two positive comments to shut it down. My favorite mantra lately is “”I am qualified and capable”. I repeat it to myself often.

  • Donna DeRosa
    April 23, 2017 at 1:31 am

    I’m always fascinated by the harsh things we are capable of telling ourselves. We would never speak that way to anyone else.

  • Nadalie Bardo
    April 24, 2017 at 11:28 am

    Hey Arien,

    I am in LOVE with this post (and your blog too).

    I’ve never thought of the A side of your inner critic as your inner confident. How amazing is that, your own bestie that just encourages you from the inside.

    I think it’s almost a practiced skill, the one you listen to more you hear more easily. The more you embrace your confidant and self-confidence, the less you hear the critic. Shut her up! That’s my experience anyways. And I wouldn’t say that the critic is always wrong, but I think our answer should be, “so what?”

    Thanks for the introspection,

    Nadalie, It’s All You Boo
    NEW POST: How Do I Slay My Goals?

  • Sarah
    April 24, 2017 at 11:33 am

    I definitely needed this, it’s something I’m really trying to work on. Thanks so much for the positivity and motivation! Happy Monday!

  • Tay
    April 24, 2017 at 11:41 am

    This is so true! I can be so harsh on myself especially when it comes to succeeding at the little business I’ve started. I have to keep telling myself that I can and I will! That’s the only way to shut off my inner critic.

  • Aurora James
    April 25, 2017 at 10:57 am

    My self-critic is pretty mean – especially after social interactions. I have a lot of social anxiety and that inner voice is sure to beat me up after I interact with someone. I’m trying to remind myself that what it says isn’t true and that nobody is judging me as harshly as I judge myself.

  • Jen at This Happy House
    April 25, 2017 at 9:56 pm

    This is amazing, and spot on! My inner voice has always told me I am not good enough. It is something I struggle with every single day. But I have been taking more risks lately, and pushing the voice out of my head more and more. Building self confidence quiets the voice, but it’s such a struggle!

  • Asti
    June 18, 2017 at 8:10 am

    I guess I will take this topic to therapy with me. We are a DID system and our inner critic is an actual person with the habit of putting everyone down while creating a lot of pressure to be perfect and to have an “ordinary” life. I can’t live up to that, no matter how hard I try.
    We can agree on creating ways where there are no ways yet, to reach our goals in a way that is different from other people. Maybe the world needs us as someone who comes up with new ways of doing things. I am just too exhausted trying to be enough for our inner critic. Not sure how she can become something like a consultant, but maybe the therapist knows more.
    I am tired of being told that i need to fit in and do things exactly like everyone else is doing them.

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