3 Self Help Ideas Making Us Feel Not Good Enough

You are so dedicated to your healing, so willing to do the work to recover, and yet there might be a little voice that keeps asking “am I doing enough?”

Self help ideas sometimes shame us into thinking we’re not. Despite the transformative offerings in these fields, those of us with mental illnesses and disabilities are left behind. Where are the personal development leaders that live with our conditions? Where are those that understand us?

They’re quite hard to find and, as a result, inaccessible self help concepts are popularized.

Those of us with mental illness continue to be told we’re not good enough

The concept “choose happiness” is one of the worst. It says we can just decide what emotions we feel, regardless of depression or other illnesses.

Many leaders say we have to totally love ourselves before we can be loved by another, while completely ignoring that self love is a process.

Medication is stigmatized and we’re shamed for taking it, treated like we’re giving up on our recovery by “resigning” to medicinal treatment.

But if medication will help us to feel better within ourselves, then why shouldn’t we take it? I know a lot of people who have taken things that contained benzodiazepines to help with their anxiety. They only found this out by taking a drug test to find out what it was, but it worked. They took it in moderation like they were supposed to, and they felt better within days.

It has been known to work, so why is there such a stigma surrounding those of us who take medication to help aid with our recovery?

Frustrating, right?

These alienate those of us with depression, anxiety, PTSD, and basically any other mental illness by telling us that we’re not good enough at recovering.

Well, here’s the truth-if you’re working on recovery, you’re doing it just right. Living with a mental illness is a complex thing and you deserve to hear inclusive self help techniques.

So, here’s an episode that debunks these outdated concepts and changes them into more supportive and realistic ideas. Enjoy!

Is it refreshing to hear that you don’t have to choose happiness, you can pursue personal growth while on medication, and you are deserving of love right here and right now?

I really hope so. Of course, I know these are only three of the ways the self help field tells us we’re not good enough. There are (unfortunately) many many more.

That’s why I’d love to hear from you below in the comments.

What self help techniques have been off-putting for you?

Which ideas have made you feel like you’re not good enough?

Your unique version of healing and growth and recovery is important. It’s valid and it’s beautiful.

Together, we can start a change these outdated self help techniques and make the field more inclusive for those of us with mental illness. This blog will help us all change the self help world for the better, so please don’t hesitate to spread this video around!

Related video: 4 Things You Need to Hear When Living With Mental Illness