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Self Compassion: The Art of Loving Yourself Louder

We are told to curse our anger, to push away our fear. We’re told that these are harmful emotions to experience, that they signal something is wrong with us. Sometimes, the same voices that tell us to unconditionally love ourselves tell us to damn our difficult emotions. This isn’t real self compassion.

Self compassion is loving every bit of ourselves. It’s when we embrace our most critical voice, thank anger for protecting us and sadness for showing us how much we cared. Self compassion radiates from our heart and honors every part of us.

When we begin a journey towards self-love, we often begin with hesitant and small actions. Things like “I won’t be so critical of myself today” or “I’ll buy myself a little treat, but only because life has been tough lately.”

These are steps in the right direction and they will guide us towards greater self compassion, but we can reach it faster. We can leap into absolutely unconditional self love.

How? By choosing to love ourselves louder. To let our hearts sing, whether we fully believe its voice or not.

Be bold with self compassion and self love. Let it radiate from you.

This episode is a message of inspiring indulgence. One that allows you to fully treasure yourself, to completely embrace all you are. An indulgence in yourself that leads to unconditional self compassion. You deserve this love—a love that cannot be silenced by even the nastiest of critics, from within or outside of you.

Like all self-compassion, loving yourself louder is a process too. This is totally okay. What feels loud for you now may feel quiet in the future and that’s fine. Simply seek boldness in your self love. Seek flare and creativity and eternal self compassion. The choice to look for this, to proclaim love louder, will guide you towards the most expansive and unconditional self compassion.

This episode will give you all you need to begin. You’ll learn how to celebrate yourself for all you are—the pristine, the messy, and the wounded parts of yourself. They all will be shown self compassion, simply by making the choice to start loving yourself louder.

You can begin this journey today. Even if you have felt little love in your life, you can decide today to start to seek it. Don’t hesitate, do not go tentatively. Give it all you have. Sing with the loudest voice within you.

That is how you love yourself louder. It is something you can begin to embrace right now.

Celebrate something about yourself in the comments below. Share something beautiful with the world, something where you say “I’m choosing to love myself louder today.”

It may feel strange or different or complicated to write something so bold, but I encourage you to try. One single comment could be the spark your heart needs to let its light fully shine out.

Then share this blog with a loved one. If we all gave ourselves more self compassion, the world would be a much better place. From your heart, share the message “you deserve bold and bright love too” with someone you care about. And, since love is contagious, this share may transform hundreds of lives.

How close are you to living a life you love? Take the quiz here!

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  1. Angela

    I think being kind to ourselves is one of the smartest things we can do. I know I’m harder on myself than on anyone else, sometimes it’s easier to forgive others than it is to forgive myself. I remind myself daily that I’m worthy of the same respect that I show others.

    • Arien Smith

      Yes yes, definitely! I wholeheartedly agree with you. It’s natural to be hard on ourselves, which is also why it’s so important to practice self love.

  2. Sharon Smith

    Love this post. I need to be less hard on myself.

    • Arien Smith

      Thank you! I totally encourage trying out some greater self-compassion–there are only wonderful things that can come from it.

  3. Dina

    I’m choosing to walk away from someone (after 6 years) who doesn’t know how to love himself and therefore can’t truly love or respect me in the way I deserve to be loved.

    • Arien Smith

      So glad you are making the empowered choice to walk away from a relationship not good for you! Best of luck with this.

  4. Allison Palmer

    I’m loving myself enough to try the path. It’s a start.
    I want to get better but I just feel emotionless.

    • Arien Smith

      Trying is the absolute best thing you can do, Allison! I also used to be so emotionless and numb and, when I did feel something, it hurt. But healing is totally possible. It’s my hope my blog and other resources can help. If you haven’t yet stumbled upon it, I’d definitely recommend taking this quiz to get some exercises targeted for your needs right now. <3


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August 30, 2017