“Love after abuse.” It’s something every survivor wants and yet it also feels the farthest out of reach. How will someone come to love us with this ‘baggage?’ How do we build a relationship with someone who is actually good for us?
These question are painful because, truthfully, these are blocking our way towards love. There will be people who will discard us as survivors. (As immoral and icky as that is.) Others may treat us well in the beginning and then turn on us once we fall in love.
This is why it’s so important to know how to find love in a safe way, a way that nearly ensures you’ll be with kind and good people.
I made this video because I know how daunting it is to find love after abuse. I also made it because I believe you can find this love—I simply want to guide you on how.
So, if you want to find a person you can safely fall for, watch this!
Don’t miss these highlights!
What you need to focus on first, so love can form from a safe foundation [0:59]
How trust-filled relationships will help you reclaim the things your abuser took from you [2:46]
I want to validate that finding love after abuse is hard—a truth I’m already sure you know. But, more importantly, I want you to believe in your potential to find that love. It is something you will find in the future.
First, make a few commitments to yourself. What relationships can you start to focus on building trust in first? What promises will you make around emotional and physical intimacy?
It would be a joy to hear from you, so please comment right below!
Then go out there. Take a few leaps of faith and start reaching out to people you’ve once trusted and lost connection with. Go out on a date with the strong intention to take things slow. Do whatever it is that you know will help you find love after abuse.
A year from now, your entire life may be different. Mine has changed drastically in so many wonderful ways—and I’m certain yours is heading on that path too.