Recovering from abuse is a journey of emotional ups and downs. Those difficult moments are the times we need support—sometimes more than our friends can provide.
Each one of us finds support in different ways, so this blog is meant to list a bunch of resources you can pick and choose from. Give several a try so you know where to turn when you’re overwhelmed…or even when you just need a bit of advice!
Some are fairly broad and some are specific links—so be sure to scroll through this whole list. There’s sure to be something perfect for your journey recovering from abuse.
P.S. I do not get any referral or affiliate income from these links!
In Person Support
Obviously, a trusted therapist can be absolutely invaluable—and they’re one of the few supports here that can help you through an actual crisis. (Like addiction, self-harm, or suicidal feelings.) Here’s one great website to find a therapist in your area. Here’s another!
Often a far more affordable and accessible option (like if you struggle to leave your home), these therapists can also help you while recovering from abuse. Do keep in mind though some sites don’t completely evaluate their therapists—so not all will be properly trained. Simply read any fine print and stop working with your therapist if there’s any red flags. Sites like BetterHelp and GoodTherapy have primarily positive reviews!
A life or mental health coach may be a great resource for you too. This is usually best if you’re past the stage where you may end up in a crisis and you’re ready to start really creating a meaningful life after abuse. It’s still part of your recovery, but it’s not mental health treatment. I’m a coach (here’s my info!) and there are other great ones out there too. Some coaches meet in person, some are online. Simply google what sort of healing you’re looking for (like “abuse” or “addiction” or “life purpose”) and add “coach” on.
These are casual meeting with like-minded people, all sharing a similar interest or background. You can find almost any topic on their website—including recovering from abuse. They’re also an international database, particularly helpful if you move to a new country or city and need to make some friends. Here’s their site!
This is a free international program for addiction recovery—something many survivors of abuse face. It’s science focused, based on proven therapeutic techniques to heal addiction. There is no religious component. It’s also open to all addictions—from substances to porn to self-harm, video games, and more. I’ve been a SMART Recovery facilitator for years and it’s honestly the one program that helped me heal an addiction I struggled with. Here’s the program’s website!
Local Abuse Centers for Recovering from Abuse:
Many cities around the world have non-profit centers for abuse survivors. These can range from getting financial help, providing shelter, helping you get a job, or finding you proper counseling. Some even have group meet ups for various demographics (like people of color or LGBTQ survivors!). You should be able to find some with a simple google search of your area plus “abuse recovery center” or “victim outreach.”
Facebook groups are a great way to connect with other similar survivors. There are groups for LGBTQ survivors, survivors of color, survivors of specific types of abuse or with specific illnesses. Simply search under the group tag in Facebook to find some! Join them, check them out, and see if they’re a good match for you. Two of my favorites are Rachel Grant’s Recovering from Abuse group and Adult Survivors of Child Abuse.
I have to share an extra special Facebook group—the Uncover Your Joy one! I facilitate this group and regularly contribute, so if you want some one-on-one help, or advice from a bunch of similar survivors, this is the group to join. This is a well maintained safe space. I make sure it remains healing focused, rather that just accounts of triggering situations (like many other Facebook groups). Here’s the link!
Mental Health Apps:
There are some phenomenal apps for tracking and improving your mental health. You can try Calm or Headspace if mindfulness helps when recovering from abuse. Fortify is great for pornography addiction, common in survivors of abuse. Or you can track moods and triggers with apps like Daylio! Most have some paid content, but you can access a lot for free too.
There are so many hotlines and crisis support centers that now provide online chatting support. You can speak with peers directly at the Mental Health Advice tumblr (https://mental-health-advice.tumblr.com/live-chat), professionals at the National Domestic Violence chat here (https://www.thehotline.org/what-is-live-chat/) or the Suicide Prevention Hotline here (https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/).
You can take yourself from struggling every day to living the life of your dreams in this simple and powerful 6-step program. It’s something I and dozens of other survivors found joy through. This program includes a private group, eCourse, community challenges, and masterclasses. The Prosperity Path is the foundation of my work at Uncover your Joy. Learn more about this program here!
Hotlines exist for almost any type of mental health crisis. Here are a few well-regarded ones, broken down by specific topics you may need while recovering from abuse. Most of these are US based, but usually a quick google search will uncover hotlines in your country.
Some of these have online chat options as well! Visit their website to see.
Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255)—Deaf & hard of hearing accessible
Trevor Lifeline (1-866-488-7386)—focused on LGBTQ communities. You don’t need to actively be in a crisis to chat https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
Lines for Life 800-273-8255 https://www.linesforlife.org/get-help-now/
Lines for Life Drug & Alcohol Hotline 800-923-4357 https://www.linesforlife.org/get-help-now/
National Drug Helpline 1-884-289-0879 http://drughelpline.org/
SAMHSA Helpline 1-800-662-4357 https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
RAINN: Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network (1-800-656-4673) https://www.rainn.org/about-national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotline
National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233)
Love is Respect Teen Dating Violence (1-866-331-9474) Hotline https://www.loveisrespect.org/
National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 http://www.childhelp.org/hotline/
Here is a list of a bunch more specific abuse hotlines, including resources for Native Americans, LGBTQ survivors, human trafficking, and more.
Here are some additional resources that have been suggested to us after the publication of this blog!
Ridgefield Recovery (Addiction and Abuse resources): Their website is here!
Legal Advocacy after Sexual Assault Guide is here!
Please share this blog on social media or directly with your friends. There are so many of us out there recovering from abuse—and we can never truly tell when someone needs support. Send them a life-line by sharing these links. <3
So which resources are you going to explore? Pick one and check it out this week!
If you have had experience with any of these, comment below too! I’m certain other survivors would love your feedback.