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Personal Development Isn’t a Race

Imagine you’re going along at a great pace, jogging and confident in your every stride. Then zoom, a friend flies past you, seemingly sprinting the marathon you’re running!

If you’re anything like me, you might think “hey, wait! Why can’t I run that fast?”

I’m not a marathon runner, but I’ve faced this same feeling up close and personal with my own personal development. And I doubt I’m alone in feeling this way.

So many of us treat our evolution like a race against others. Like we have to reach this high pinnacle of wellbeing faster than everyone else. We feel we have to improve so we can be loved, not cause problems for others, and get our life “in order.”

It’s almost as if we define our worth based on how quickly we can progress to these high expectations.

Slow down with me for a second. Personal development is not a race. You are going at the perfect pace for you and that’s what matters.

Your worth is not defined by how fast you embark on a journey of personal development.

When you try to go as fast as your peers, you’re focusing on living their life, not your own. And why would you ever want to give that up? Your life is filled with so much potential, intrigue, and strength. From this beautiful foundation you can rise and create the most splendid of experiences. And that’s because your life is something only you have—something special to solely you.

So, don’t give it away by trying to run someone else’s race. Instead, watch this episode and take one step closer towards loving all the progress you’ve made in your journey.

Can you now feel how far you’ve come? How much of your race you’ve already won, and how worthy of celebration that is?

Heck, I’m gonna throw you a party in my mind right now! And I’ll be sure to celebrate your progress with you if you leave a comment below and share what you feel your most impactful transformation has been over this past year.

Your progress brings joy to my heart. I love seeing you travel your own journey, learn new things about yourself, and change this world in the very process of learning to be more and more you.

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  1. Sharon T McLaughlin MD FACS

    Great advice. It is so important to slow down. I think little steps make such a huge difference over time without being overwhelming.

  2. Donna DeRosa

    This is how I feel about my business sometimes. It seems everyone is making leaps while mine is slow and steady. But when I look back to where I was a year ago I have made significant progress. It’s my perception. And I’m on my own journey. I don’t have to compare myself to anyone else.

  3. Cher

    Ive felt this way my whole life…I always thought I was behind and too naive about life etc etc. However, when I came down with a rare painful lifelong autoimmune disease recently which left me homeless and alone-all my friend and family bailed on me-Ive learned what you are saying. Ive finally learned to love myself and enjoy my own company-this has been very powerful. This life is about MY journey and personal growth and not about anyone else’s. Thank you for re-affirming this for me!

    • Arien Smith

      It sounds like such hardship has come your way, I am so sorry you had to experience all of that! Your story is incredibly powerful and so are the lessons you learned from it! It was a pleasure to reaffirm this message. Many wonderful wishes your way!


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