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Struggling in a new relationship? How to overcome the fear of betrayal.

Struggling in a New Relationship? How to Overcome the Fear of Betrayal

Terrified those you love are going to let you down? Or that they’ll abandon or hurt you? You’re not the only survivor with this fear of betrayal—most of us have struggled with it after abuse. Relationships are nerve-wracking even for someone who’s never been traumatized. It’s human nature to want to be loved and, when we get close to someone, we want to keep them by us.  And, our history has given us a bad impression of...

Why you have a scarcity mindset after abuse and how to heal it, title image on background of purple flower field

Why You Have a Scarcity Mindset After Abuse (& How to Heal It)

It’s super common for us survivors of abuse to have a scarcity mindset. That’s when we constantly feel like we’re struggling to have what we need to survive, usually not enough money. Abuse impacts us in many ways, and sometimes that means leaving us in poverty. Depending on where you live and what resources you have available to you, being poor can be a real threat to your survival.  You need food, shelter, and medical care to...

6 Powerful techniques that can stop a panic attack

6 Powerful Techniques that Can Stop a Panic Attack

Imagine if you could instantly stop a panic attack. As wonderful as that would be, it’s not something I can teach—but this blog will show you the next best thing. A list of techniques to quickly lower fear, panic, and anxiety.  Even if they don’t totally stop a panic attack, they’re worth trying. Reducing your anxiety even a little will help. (P.S. I’m not a licensed therapist. The techniques in this blog are not intended to treat...

Tough times? How to get through it all (lovingly)

Tough Times? How to Get Through it All (Lovingly)

Hardship happens to us all. Sometimes it’s predictable, sometimes it’s unexpected. That tends to be the most painful—when tough times catch us off guard. Why can’t things just be easy for once? After all you’ve been through, you deserve peace, not more struggle. You’ll learn how to ease your way through unexpected challenges much better. This makes life easier, even though tough stuff will still happen from time to time. Instead of being stressed for weeks, you may...

How to Manage Stress in a Peaceful & Loving Way

There is one technique guaranteed to lower stress in any situation. It’ll help you discover the best solutions, prevent exhaustion, and reduce the fear you feel while facing any challenging experience. It will help you manage stress in a self-loving, empowering way. It makes sense to doubt a way to manage stress like this exists. What could possibly guarantee you’ll feel better in any overwhelming situation? It’s actually a surprisingly simple technique—and one that’s radically changed my...

Conquer Your PTSD Triggers: The Technique You Need to Know

PTSD triggers can sneak up almost anywhere, even in the most benign conversations or situations. And they can wreck our mood, day, or even send us into a crisis. It isn’t always the common topics, like abuse and violence, that send us into flashbacks or panic attacks. Sometimes, it’s a regular and everyday experience that reminds us of the trauma we faced.  Heck, cherry tomatoes have been a serious trigger for me before. Because PTSD triggers are so...

Trauma Survivor Self Care: 50 Ideas to Help You Through a Crisis

Trauma Survivor Self Care: 50 Ideas to Help You Through a Crisis

Us trauma survivors need self care to survive. But, it can be hard to think of the right method to use when we're in the middle of a crisis-like a PTSD flashback or other symptom. This blog will provide you with a lifelong list of self care ideas, all meant to help your healing from abuse. (Other trauma survivors can definitely benefit from this too!) The list itself is broken up into 5 categories-helping you to discover...

How to survive the most intense emotional flashbacks

How to Survive the Most Intense Emotional Flashbacks

Ick. Emotional flashbacks. Easily the most difficult thing we face as survivors of abuse.  Emotional flashbacks are when an emotion comes out of nowhere. We might be enjoying a good book outside on a nice spring day…then bam! Suddenly we’re upset, scared, and traumatized.  It’s like two big hands grip us and toss us around, squeezing our heart with some completely surprising and uncalled-for feeling.  And, boy do these feel out of control.  They’re easily the most unpredictable PTSD...

The True Solution to the Winter Blues

Winter can be such a tough season. The cold, the overcast, the lack of desire to go outside…or even get out of bed. Talk about the winter blues!  My productivity, focus, and energy all drop by at least 40% in the winter, but it used to be at least 70%. I’d barely be able to function because of a mix of seasonal depression and physical symptoms…all brought on by the cold.  The winter blues, or seasonal affective...

How to Ensure Space in a Relationship Doesn’t Destroy You

How to Ensure Space in a Relationship Doesn’t Destroy You

It can be a terrifying thing when someone says “I need space.” We start wondering if we did something wrong. Are they going to leave us? Are we unwanted? Space in a relationship is vulnerable for us survivors of abuse—but it is possible to reclaim it as a healthy thing. Every individual person has their own needs and sometimes that includes alone time. Often, when a need for space crops up, it’s completely unrelated to...

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