by Arien Smith | Jul 7, 2020 | Ending Mental Illness Stigma, Self Love
There was a viral post that went around Facebook a few months ago, about how it was harmful to say “Trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility.” That phrase had always rubbed me the wrong way, but I didn’t know why until I was a part of that...
by Arien Smith | May 19, 2020 | Healthy Relationships, Self Love
Ever had a friendship that made you feel uncomfortable? Someone you stress about spending time with…but they aren’t actually abusive? How do you know when to end a friendship that’s unpleasant like this? That’s the focus of this blog. I’ve talked lots about...
by Arien Smith | Mar 3, 2020 | Healthy Relationships, Peace Through Acceptance, Self Love
Victim blaming can be as traumatic as the initial abuse, especially when all of your friends leave—blaming you for what happened and shaming you for sharing your story. This shame, right after we make the courageous move to leave our abusers, can be extremely...
by Arien Smith | Feb 18, 2020 | Self Love
Your inner child needs a lot of love after all you’ve been through. The abuse you faced when you were younger (and perhaps older too) was unfair and unjust. I know how heavily it weighs on you. Your inner child, the part of you longing for the love you never...
by Arien Smith | Nov 19, 2019 | Powerful Coping Strategies, Self Love
Recovering from abuse is a journey of emotional ups and downs. Those difficult moments are the times we need support—sometimes more than our friends can provide. We need help with flashbacks, fears, and trauma memories. We need to talk with people who truly...
by Arien Smith | Sep 3, 2019 | Self Love, Self-Empowerment
Wish you could believe in yourself, even in the face of criticism or doubt from others? Feeling hesitant about your decisions is normal after abuse. Your abuser had total control for a long time. It’s logical that confidence is hard to find after the attacks you...
by Arien Smith | Aug 20, 2019 | Self Love
Knowing how to love yourself after abuse can feel like a total mystery. There are plenty of articles saying what it’s like to have self-love and what we’re supposed to do to get it. But I’ve yet to find one actually sharing what the real journey towards self love...
by Arien Smith | Aug 6, 2019 | Heal with Mindfulness, How To & Healing Solutions, Powerful Coping Strategies, Self Love
Us trauma survivors need self care to survive. But, it can be hard to think of the right method to use when we’re in the middle of a crisis-like a PTSD flashback or other symptom. This blog will provide you with a lifelong list of self care ideas, all meant to...
by Arien Smith | Jul 9, 2019 | Peace Through Acceptance, Self Love
We can’t travel back in time and change our past…and this can cause a lot of despair. Difficult emotions may rage through you—scaring you and making it hard to find even one ounce of self acceptance. I get it. I truly, honestly do. Loving ourselves in any...
by Arien Smith | Mar 20, 2019 | Build Your Dream Life, Self Love
Having trouble feeling like there’s any purpose to keep going on? Like you should feel that life matters…but it just doesn’t? This isn’t unusual for us survivors of abuse. We had to numb ourselves to all the good things in life in order to survive...
