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Find remarkable peace by ending this hidden cycle of abuse

Find Remarkable Peace by Ending this Hidden Cycle of Abuse

There are two cycles of abuse that can linger in us survivors. We can continue abusive behaviors towards ourselves—harming ourselves even after we’ve escaped those who abused us.  Or, much more rarely, survivors can go on to abuse others. (This isn’t common, as survivors are for more likely to be repeat victims than they are to perpetrate abuse.)  Codependency and poor communication are more common—but can be deeply damaging.  In any of these cases, harm and hurt continues. This...

How to Love Yourself: Reclaim Compassion after Abuse

How to Love Yourself: Reclaim Compassion after Abuse

Knowing how to love yourself after abuse can feel like a total mystery. There are plenty of articles saying what it’s like to have self-love and what we’re supposed to do to get it. But I’ve yet to find one actually sharing what the real journey towards self love looks like.  That’s what this blog is for. There are steps to go through before we actually get to life-long self love. We also need to understand what self...

The Prosperity Path_ How to Find Happiness After Abuse

The Prosperity Path: How to Find Happiness After Abuse

Three years ago, my therapist asked me, “Do you think you’ll be happy someday?” I thought about it for a moment before answering, “I don’t think so. Maybe I’ll learn to be okay and tolerate life, but I don’t think I’ll ever know how to find happiness.” I was so wrong. This would have shocked my 21-year-old self. How, after 15 years of violent abuse, could I ever truly feel happy? Looking back, I’m not surprised I love...

Love life after abuse with these 3 simple steps

Life After Abuse: 3 Ways to Fall in Love with Every Moment

A great life after abuse. It kinda sounds like a foreign concept, doesn’t it? What does life even mean after you been attacked and harmed by another human being?  I get it. My life is not the same as it would have been if I had never been abused. In fact, part of life after abuse is facing that grief. Even more so, it's that wish that we had a different life. But, despite the pain you went...

The Dangers of Forcing Yourself to be Too Happy

Glad 2019 is here? I think we’re all ready to move on from last year. It’s a time for new growth and happiness.  Joy is a great goal to go after. In fact, it’s the foundation for my work…but that doesn’t mean it is immune to being unbalanced. It’s possible to be too happy.  When us survivors have struggled for so long, it’s natural for us to grip tight to any good feelings we do get. Sometimes...

You'll transform your life when you make an impact

You’ll Transform Your Life When You Make an Impact

It doesn’t matter that you’re just one person. You are a powerful person and you can make an impact in the world. When you do this, you’ll be lighting up your own life too. Abuse is a difficult hand to be dealt. It leaves us with a lot of painful emotions, memories, and impacts, meaning that it’s tough to live a fulfilling and joyous life. But tough doesn’t mean impossible. When you choose to make...

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How to Find Joy, Even When You Can’t Choose Happiness

We can’t just choose happiness, especially after surviving abuse and living with PTSD. But this can be disheartening. If you can’t choose happiness, how do you start to love life? How do you begin to feel good? A love for life is still something you can experience. You can still have wonderful days and great relationships. There are so many ways you can find joy. All without needing the ability to choose happiness. Let’s first...

You Can Reclaim Inner Peace, Even After Abuse

You Can Reclaim Inner Peace, Even After Abuse

Inner peace is possible for you, and every other survivor of abuse, to find. It comes with one simple thing: building a home within yourself. Obviously, I’m not talking about a literal home. But rather, a safe place where you can feel and process all emotions. Where you exist authentically and can choose how to share your true self with the world. It’s by understanding that emotions are safe to feel and that you are...

Pushing People Away? Here’s How to Stop Rejecting Love

Rejecting love is normal for us survivors of abuse. We were once told that we were unlovable, that we deserved to be hurt, or that we weren’t worth anything. Now, when we’re handed truly unconditional love, we push it away. It’s normal to do this, but that doesn’t make it pain free. Something in your past caused love to seem scary. And today, that cycle of fear repeats—pushing love even farther out of reach. I’ve feared...

Why Pursuing Happiness is Not the Best Goal

Happiness is an awesome emotion. It’s enjoyable to feel and easy to embrace—it’s something we truly want a lot of in our lives! Despite it’s general awesomeness, it’s completely irrational to expect to have this feeling 24/7. For this reason, pursuing happiness as our main goal is not the smartest thing for any of us to do. I don’t want to discount how wonderful happiness is. It’s important to seek out and to strive for greater...

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