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Find remarkable peace by ending this hidden cycle of abuse

Find Remarkable Peace by Ending this Hidden Cycle of Abuse

There are two cycles of abuse that can linger in us survivors. We can continue abusive behaviors towards ourselves—harming ourselves even after we’ve escaped those who abused us.  Or, much more rarely, survivors can go on to abuse others. (This isn’t common, as survivors are for more likely to be repeat victims than they are to perpetrate abuse.)  Codependency and poor communication are more common—but can be deeply damaging.  In any of these cases, harm and hurt continues. This...

32 Resources: Recovering from Abuse with All the Help You Need

Recovering from abuse is a journey of emotional ups and downs. Those difficult moments are the times we need support—sometimes more than our friends can provide.  We need help with flashbacks, fears, and trauma memories. We need to talk with people who truly understand the hardship of PTSD and the life-long impact of abuse. Each one of us finds support in different ways, so this blog is meant to list a bunch of resources you can pick...

How to Reduce the Pain of Grief in a Loving Way

Every survivor of abuse has experienced grief. It’s not always when a person leaves us or someone passes on—sometimes it’s the loss we feel over the fun childhood we never had. Or the betrayal of someone we thought loved us.  Grief is always complex—even more so when abuse is involved. Sometimes we attach to our abuser and feel devastated when they’re gone.  Or, other times, grief comes with anger…at our abusers or at the Universe for cursing...

How to Love Again after a Lifetime of Abuse

It’s difficult to love again after abuse.   There may be compassionate and kind people who come into our life, but learning to trust them can seem nearly impossible. Or we settle for anything better than our past relationships—even if they aren’t great and we don’t truly feel a connection. They’re just someone less toxic than our abuser. There are several things each one of us needs to face and do before we can truly feel in...

The Direct Path You Need to Follow to Thrive after Abuse

We all enjoy dreaming of a better life. One where we thrive after abuse—less PTSD, stable finances, happier relationships. Whatever that dream is for you.  We have to dream to stay hopeful, but we often try to reach our ideal life without taking some important healing steps first. Without this foundation, even the best goals and opportunities will (most likely) collapse around us. Everyone healing from abuse has to go through the same (or at least an...

Conquer Your PTSD Triggers: The Technique You Need to Know

PTSD triggers can sneak up almost anywhere, even in the most benign conversations or situations. And they can wreck our mood, day, or even send us into a crisis. It isn’t always the common topics, like abuse and violence, that send us into flashbacks or panic attacks. Sometimes, it’s a regular and everyday experience that reminds us of the trauma we faced.  Heck, cherry tomatoes have been a serious trigger for me before. Because PTSD triggers are so...

How to Conquer Your Fear of Doctors after Abuse

How to Conquer Your Fear of Doctors after Abuse

It’s pretty common for survivors of abuse to have a fear of doctors. Anxiety during certain procedures, like injections, gynecology, or more invasive examinations is definitely not unheard of either. In fact, several people asked me to write about this topic. I’ve faced and (in a lot of ways) overcome this fear—so I knew it would be an important blog to create. Although I no longer have panic attacks at the idea of seeing a doctor, I...

How to Love Yourself: Reclaim Compassion after Abuse

How to Love Yourself: Reclaim Compassion after Abuse

Knowing how to love yourself after abuse can feel like a total mystery. There are plenty of articles saying what it’s like to have self-love and what we’re supposed to do to get it. But I’ve yet to find one actually sharing what the real journey towards self love looks like.  That’s what this blog is for. There are steps to go through before we actually get to life-long self love. We also need to understand what self...

Trauma Survivor Self Care: 50 Ideas to Help You Through a Crisis

Trauma Survivor Self Care: 50 Ideas to Help You Through a Crisis

Us trauma survivors need self care to survive. But, it can be hard to think of the right method to use when we’re in the middle of a crisis—like a PTSD flashback or other symptom. This blog will provide you with a lifelong list of self care ideas, all meant to help your healing from abuse. (Other trauma survivors can definitely benefit from this too!) The list itself is broken up into 5 categories—helping you to discover...

How to Stop Fearing Affection after Abuse

How to Stop Fearing Affection after Abuse

Human touch. Something we all need, yet something many of us fear after abuse. It make sense touch is now scary. Previous displays of affection were often side by side with acts of violence. If you had asked me three years ago if I’d ever feel safe having sex, I would have said no. That intense level of affection sounded far too frightening. Sex had always, for 15 years, meant pain and violence and fear for...

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