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Your Life Matters: How to See the Gifts You Bring This World

Having trouble feeling like there's any purpose to keep going on? Like you should feel that life matters…but it just doesn’t?  This isn't unusual for us survivors of abuse. We had to numb ourselves to all the good things in life in order to survive the horrible trauma that we faced. And now that means that you walk with pain on your shoulders and a heavy heart. But this doesn't mean that your light has disappeared. This...

Invest in Yourself: How to Find Genuine Healing After Abuse

Do you want to show your abuser that they didn’t win? That they don’t have control over your life? Then invest in yourself—in your healing, your joy, your prosperity. You deserve to have an amazing life and I know, firsthand, just how tough it can feel to get this after you’ve been abused. It seems like trauma will forever knock us down, limit us, and stop us from reaching our true potential. But this is...

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The 8 Growth Mindsets You Need to Thrive After Abuse

“Switch to a growth mindset.” That’s a popular thing you hear in the personal development field, isn’t it? At it’s core, the concept is beautiful. It challenges us to keep improving ourselves and our lives, in turn transforming the world around us. But for us survivors of abuse, it’s a more nuanced idea. Most “growth mindsets” are about no longer feeling emotional pain, or deciding to feel abundant and in love with life. And that’s super invalidating....

This is How You Embrace Life After Abuse

This is How You Embrace Life After Abuse

How do you embrace life after abuse? How can you feel joyous, living with the after effects of such horrible trauma? Embracing life isn’t about having a perfect life. It’s about finding joy and happiness and love even in the midst of hardship—something that us survivors of abuse have faced plenty of. Despite the unique struggles we have all faced, there are some key things that create a foundation from which joy can grow. The first...

Here's how to stop seeking approval from others

Here’s How to Stop Seeking Approval From Others

This is your life—not anyone else’s. You’re the one meant to make empowered decisions about your dreams and your future. And yet, are you constantly seeking approval from others? It’s so incredibly common for us survivors of abuse to wait on an “okay” from someone else. To constantly be seeking approval, even when we’re fully capable of making these decisions for ourselves. This isn’t anything to be ashamed of. This all came from a simple pattern...

How to make a change even when you're afraid

How to Make a Change Even When You’re Afraid

One of the most difficult decisions I made in my life led to a rough break up—but I am so glad that I made that choice. When you make a change, something tough may happen. You’ll hurt for a bit, but then look back and see it was the perfect decision. It takes courage to make a change, especially when the outcome is uncertain and potentially painful. Change is scary! But, in order to live...

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What to Do When You’re Too Exhausted to Reach Your Goals

Too exhausted to reach your goals? When you’re fighting a daily battle in your mind, it can be hard for you to muster the energy to pursue your dreams. This is okay. It’s possible to reach your goals even when you’re tired. All it takes is a willingness to rest and recuperate, then consistent effort when you have energy. You don’t need to make forward progress every day. It’s not required to work every free second towards...

Overcome Feeling Like a Failure with This Loving Process

Overcome Feeling Like a Failure with This Loving Process

You ultimately get to decide what you believe and reject. And, with this power, you can free yourself from the pain of feeling like a failure. You can redefine success. You can honor all your accomplishments. Someone once told us what success and failure meant. It may have been our parents, trying to coach us on our career. It could have been advertisements or societal stigmas. Whatever the cause, we learned what “failure” and “success” meant...

Self reflect in the most self loving way

Self Reflect in the Most Self Loving Way

You deserve to enter this New Year with pride. With joy for who you are and all you have accomplished over the past year. This compassion and optimism comes with a beautiful form of self reflection, one that inspires your journey. Self reflection, if done in a critical way, can make us feel bad about ourselves. The last thing you want is to enter this new year feeling down about the past 12 months. You...

Finding freedom from the fear of failure

Finding Freedom from the Fear of Failure

Failure is a natural and beautiful part of reaching our goals. It arises when we take the risks necessary to expand our lives, ourselves, and our world. This is why a fear of failure can significantly hold us back. It can keep us bound to a past we no longer want to be a part of. The fear of failure is so common because we see our shortcomings as a negative reflection on ourselves. We say...

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