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4 Steps to Overcome Limiting Beliefs after Abuse

4 Steps to Overcome Limiting Beliefs after Abuse

Trauma leaves us with a bunch of limiting beliefs. These are subconscious patterns that inform how we see ourselves and the world. Things we believe.  Beliefs themselves aren’t bad, many are neutral or good. But some are damaging. They hold us back—limiting us. These, logically, are called limiting beliefs.  Every single person, with a history of trauma or not, has limiting beliefs. But, as survivors of abuse, ours are often more impactful than your average person who’s...

The Prosperity Path_ How to Find Happiness After Abuse

The Prosperity Path: How to Find Happiness After Abuse

Three years ago, my therapist asked me, “Do you think you’ll be happy someday?” I thought about it for a moment before answering, “I don’t think so. Maybe I’ll learn to be okay and tolerate life, but I don’t think I’ll ever know how to find happiness.” I was so wrong. This would have shocked my 21-year-old self. How, after 15 years of violent abuse, could I ever truly feel happy? Looking back, I’m not surprised I love...

Design your destiny and purpose of life after abuse

Design Your Destiny and Purpose of Life After Abuse

“What do I want to make with my life?” is quite literally the most powerful question you can ask yourself. Why? Well, it gives you the chance to define your own unique purpose of life.  When you feel like there is a purpose to life—a reason that you exist in this world—you’ll feel ready to face each day. Even the days that are hard and tiring.  You won’t feel paralyzed by challenges. Obstacles will no longer seem...

Your Life Matters: How to See the Gifts You Bring This World

Having trouble feeling like there's any purpose to keep going on? Like you should feel that life matters…but it just doesn’t?  This isn't unusual for us survivors of abuse. We had to numb ourselves to all the good things in life in order to survive the horrible trauma that we faced. And now that means that you walk with pain on your shoulders and a heavy heart. But this doesn't mean that your light has disappeared. This...

Invest in Yourself: How to Find Genuine Healing After Abuse

Do you want to show your abuser that they didn’t win? That they don’t have control over your life? Then invest in yourself—in your healing, your joy, your prosperity. You deserve to have an amazing life and I know, firsthand, just how tough it can feel to get this after you’ve been abused. It seems like trauma will forever knock us down, limit us, and stop us from reaching our true potential. But this is...

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The 8 Growth Mindsets You Need to Thrive After Abuse

“Switch to a growth mindset.” That’s a popular thing you hear in the personal development field, isn’t it? At it’s core, the concept is beautiful. It challenges us to keep improving ourselves and our lives, in turn transforming the world around us. But for us survivors of abuse, it’s a more nuanced idea. Most “growth mindsets” are about no longer feeling emotional pain, or deciding to feel abundant and in love with life. And that’s super invalidating....

This is How You Embrace Life After Abuse

This is How You Embrace Life After Abuse

How do you embrace life after abuse? How can you feel joyous, living with the after effects of such horrible trauma? Embracing life isn’t about having a perfect life. It’s about finding joy and happiness and love even in the midst of hardship—something that us survivors of abuse have faced plenty of. Despite the unique struggles we have all faced, there are some key things that create a foundation from which joy can grow. The first...

Here's how to stop seeking approval from others

Here’s How to Stop Seeking Approval From Others

This is your life—not anyone else’s. You’re the one meant to make empowered decisions about your dreams and your future. And yet, are you constantly seeking approval from others? It’s so incredibly common for us survivors of abuse to wait on an “okay” from someone else. To constantly be seeking approval, even when we’re fully capable of making these decisions for ourselves. This isn’t anything to be ashamed of. This all came from a simple pattern...

How to make a change even when you're afraid

How to Make a Change Even When You’re Afraid

One of the most difficult decisions I made in my life led to a rough break up—but I am so glad that I made that choice. When you make a change, something tough may happen. You’ll hurt for a bit, but then look back and see it was the perfect decision. It takes courage to make a change, especially when the outcome is uncertain and potentially painful. Change is scary! But, in order to live...

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What to Do When You’re Too Exhausted to Reach Your Goals

Too exhausted to reach your goals? When you’re fighting a daily battle in your mind, it can be hard for you to muster the energy to pursue your dreams. This is okay. It’s possible to reach your goals even when you’re tired. All it takes is a willingness to rest and recuperate, then consistent effort when you have energy. You don’t need to make forward progress every day. It’s not required to work every free second towards...

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