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How to have an easier life with this one problem solving skill

How to Have an Easier Life With This One Problem Solving Skill

Feel like the problems you face are never-ending? Like you’re struggling to solve them before new ones come up.  Us survivors of abuse often face a greater challenge with life’s ups and downs, since we didn’t learn effective problem solving skills as children (we were too focused on our basic survival).  Yet, you were able to get through the trauma you faced, so you have the strength to solve literally any obstacle that comes your way. You...

What you need to stop feeling discouraged (even after years of abuse recovery)

What You Need to Stop Feeling Discouraged (Even After Years of Abuse Recovery)

If you’re a survivor of abuse who’s been working for years (or even decades) to heal and you feel discouraged because you haven’t made much progress, this blog is for you.  We all know it’s a journey to heal from abuse, especially if you were hurt in childhood. Your entire formative years were created around painful, traumatic experiences—and changing how this affected you isn’t going to happen overnight.  But, after the years of work you’ve put in,...

7 coping skills to make it easy to go after your dreams

7 Coping Skills to Make it Easy to Go After Your Dreams

It’s almost 2020! A New Year means new changes, intention, and ways we plan to improve our life. New goals to set, new dreams to pursue, and new ways to heal from our painful pasts. Making changes (even super good ones we really want) can cause fear—and that’s where these coping skills come in! This blog isn’t about general coping skills for any stressful situation. It’s focused on handling the fear that comes up when we...

How to make every decision with self confidence

How to Make Every Decision with Self Confidence

You’ll have self confidence if you believe in the decisions you make.  Making decisions you believe in means trusting you followed your heart and did what was truly best for yourself. If you’re certain you did the best thing we possibly could at the time, then you’ll feel strong and self-loving even if something doesn’t work out.  That’s ideal—to trust ourselves every time we make a choice. Imagine being able to go on a date and know you...

4 Steps to Overcome Limiting Beliefs after Abuse

4 Steps to Overcome Limiting Beliefs after Abuse

Trauma leaves us with a bunch of limiting beliefs. These are subconscious patterns that inform how we see ourselves and the world. Things we believe.  Beliefs themselves aren’t bad, many are neutral or good. But some are damaging. They hold us back—limiting us. These, logically, are called limiting beliefs.  Every single person, with a history of trauma or not, has limiting beliefs. But, as survivors of abuse, ours are often more impactful than your average person who’s...

The Prosperity Path_ How to Find Happiness After Abuse

The Prosperity Path: How to Find Happiness After Abuse

Three years ago, my therapist asked me, “Do you think you’ll be happy someday?” I thought about it for a moment before answering, “I don’t think so. Maybe I’ll learn to be okay and tolerate life, but I don’t think I’ll ever know how to find happiness.” I was so wrong. This would have shocked my 21-year-old self. How, after 15 years of violent abuse, could I ever truly feel happy? Looking back, I’m not surprised I love...

Design your destiny and purpose of life after abuse

Design Your Destiny and Purpose of Life After Abuse

“What do I want to make with my life?” is quite literally the most powerful question you can ask yourself. Why? Well, it gives you the chance to define your own unique purpose of life.  When you feel like there is a purpose to life—a reason that you exist in this world—you’ll feel ready to face each day. Even the days that are hard and tiring.  You won’t feel paralyzed by challenges. Obstacles will no longer seem...

Your Life Matters: How to See the Gifts You Bring This World

Having trouble feeling like there's any purpose to keep going on? Like you should feel that life matters…but it just doesn’t?  This isn't unusual for us survivors of abuse. We had to numb ourselves to all the good things in life in order to survive the horrible trauma that we faced. And now that means that you walk with pain on your shoulders and a heavy heart. But this doesn't mean that your light has disappeared. This...

Invest in Yourself: How to Find Genuine Healing After Abuse

Do you want to show your abuser that they didn’t win? That they don’t have control over your life? Then invest in yourself—in your healing, your joy, your prosperity. You deserve to have an amazing life and I know, firsthand, just how tough it can feel to get this after you’ve been abused. It seems like trauma will forever knock us down, limit us, and stop us from reaching our true potential. But this is...

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The 8 Growth Mindsets You Need to Thrive After Abuse

“Switch to a growth mindset.” That’s a popular thing you hear in the personal development field, isn’t it? At it’s core, the concept is beautiful. It challenges us to keep improving ourselves and our lives, in turn transforming the world around us. But for us survivors of abuse, it’s a more nuanced idea. Most “growth mindsets” are about no longer feeling emotional pain, or deciding to feel abundant and in love with life. And that’s super invalidating....

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