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How to be Unconditionally Empathetic

How to be Unconditionally Empathetic

With so many resources out there on empathy…why do we still struggle to be empathetic (both personally and as a society)?  It’s all because we’re missing the first step—turning acceptance and understanding towards ourselves. If we deny ourselves empathy, we deny the world it too.  I learned this technique in a really wacky, unconventional way, but it’s one of the most critical on my road to recovery. Without it, I don’t think I could cope with the...

How to Ensure Space in a Relationship Doesn’t Destroy You

How to Ensure Space in a Relationship Doesn’t Destroy You

It can be a terrifying thing when someone says “I need space.” We start wondering if we did something wrong. Are they going to leave us? Are we unwanted? Space in a relationship is vulnerable for us survivors of abuse—but it is possible to reclaim it as a healthy thing. Every individual person has their own needs and sometimes that includes alone time. Often, when a need for space crops up, it’s completely unrelated to...

Powerful benefits of mindfulness for survivors of abuse

Powerful Benefits of Mindfulness for Survivors of Abuse

There are incredible benefits of mindfulness for us survivors of abuse. It can help us heal from trauma, see the world in a more positive way, and tolerate the stress of recovery better. Plus so so much more. But, there are certain types of mindfulness that help…and others that can hurt. It’s important that any survivor venturing into this field knows what to look for—and that’s why I created this video! Good mindfulness practices should help...

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How to Find Joy, Even When You Can’t Choose Happiness

We can’t just choose happiness, especially after surviving abuse and living with PTSD. But this can be disheartening. If you can’t choose happiness, how do you start to love life? How do you begin to feel good? A love for life is still something you can experience. You can still have wonderful days and great relationships. There are so many ways you can find joy. All without needing the ability to choose happiness. Let’s first...

Distress Tolerance: The Most Important Skill You’ll Ever Learn

Distress tolerance is the most valuable skill you can learn. There’s nothing more capable of helping you survive the painful parts of abuse recovery. It will stabilize you like nothing else. It will transform your life. I had a major crisis happen a couple weeks ago where a huge amount of insights into childhood trauma came up. If this happened a few years ago, I would have felt suicidal. But I was fine while facing it. It...

What you need to know about healthy habits and trauma recovery

What You Need to Know About Healthy Habits & Trauma Recovery

When you are going through a tough time, you have less energy. The healthy habits you’ve spent weeks, months, maybe even years forming sometimes fall apart in front of you. And this can cause despair and guilt and shame. But, this is normal. It’s okay to break new and good habits during tough times. Healthy habits aren’t a once and done thing. Trauma recovery is exhausting—and sometimes we go back to our defaults. Healing from abuse...

Overcome a Lack of Motivation to Recover

Overcome a Lack of Motivation to Recover

Recovery is hard. Trauma is a daily battle for us survivors of abuse. Each fight is not an easy one. It’s completely natural to have a lack of motivation. In fact, as Mike Bundrant of the iNLP Center states, it's common for just about everyone to lack motivation at one point or another.  You’ve fought hard. You have stood your ground in every battle and you’ve come out victorious. You’re still here and that’s what truly matters. But...

You Can Reclaim Inner Peace, Even After Abuse

You Can Reclaim Inner Peace, Even After Abuse

Inner peace is possible for you, and every other survivor of abuse, to find. It comes with one simple thing: building a home within yourself. Obviously, I’m not talking about a literal home. But rather, a safe place where you can feel and process all emotions. Where you exist authentically and can choose how to share your true self with the world. It’s by understanding that emotions are safe to feel and that you are...

The Best 6 Natural Remedies for Depression, by Someone Living It

The Best 6 Natural Remedies for Depression, by Someone Living It

Medication can save our lives when we have a mental illness. Therapy can work wonders. But sometimes, we need natural remedies for depression too. I’m a huge supporter of psychiatric medication. Just two weeks ago, my doctor was delayed (quite significantly) in refilling one of my scripts. And my gosh did I feel it! Panic attacks went from once every 3-4 days, to almost four times a day. Medicine can transform our lives, but it doesn’t...

How to stop feeling overwhelmed and alone

How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed and Alone

Everything horrible seems to come up all at once. Your past flashes before you and unbearable emotional pain washes over you. You’re stuck feeling overwhelmed and totally alone in your pain. It’s my guess that every survivor of abuse faces this. Trauma hits like a ton of bricks, knocking you down and causing a surge of anguish to rise. It feels, in that moment, like you’re the only person on the planet experiencing so much pain....

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