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What Is Psychogenic Pain? & How You Can Live a Good Life With It

What Is Psychogenic Pain? & How You Can Live a Good Life With It

Psychogenic pain is when we feel pain that isn’t caused from a physical source (like a cut, bruise, virus, inflammation, etc). It’s essentially when our brain interprets that we’re in pain, but there’s no direct cause of it. At least, not a visible one. Psychogenic pain, though, is often tied to trauma and emotional stressors. In my opinion, that’s just as valid of a pain source as a gash. In most cases, pain medicine doesn’t work...

3 Types of Meditation to Avoid as a Survivor of Abuse

3 Types of Meditation to Avoid as a Survivor of Abuse

Mindfulness is an almost essential practice when we’re recovering from a traumatic past. Whether it’s therapeutic techniques (like Dialectical Behavioral Therapy), straight up yoga practices, morning meditations, or reading The Power of Now—there’s some level of mindfulness that’s necessary for our healing. Mindfulness teaches us how to tolerate stronger emotions, so they don’t overwhelm us. But…there are certain types of meditation that can actually do a lot of harm to us survivors of abuse. Or, at...

How to reclaim peace after a friend betrayed you

How to Reclaim Peace After a Friend Betrayed You

Being betrayed by a friend is one of the most painful experiences we can have. Whether that’s them turning abusive, revealing a secret they promised to keep, or hurting us in some other way—it destroys the relationship we had with them.  And that’s painful. Betrayal cuts deeply into our hearts. Their betrayal also tells us what to think about ourselves and our worth, which can hurt more than the loss of the friendship. This can cause us...

2 Tips on How to Thrive When You’re Living the “Single Life”

Stuck living the single life, at least for the time being? It can be tough, especially since us survivors of abuse often crave love. And we can find a lot of healing with a partner who respects us, too! That adds to our desire to live the “partnered life” instead.  Not to mention the loneliness that can hit when we live on our own, without someone to cuddle and kiss and share hardships with.  Love is an...

7 coping skills to make it easy to go after your dreams

7 Coping Skills to Make it Easy to Go After Your Dreams

It’s almost 2020! A New Year means new changes, intention, and ways we plan to improve our life. New goals to set, new dreams to pursue, and new ways to heal from our painful pasts. Making changes (even super good ones we really want) can cause fear—and that’s where these coping skills come in! This blog isn’t about general coping skills for any stressful situation. It’s focused on handling the fear that comes up when we...

32+ Resources: Recovering from Abuse with All the Help You Need

Recovering from abuse is a journey of emotional ups and downs. Those difficult moments are the times we need support—sometimes more than our friends can provide.  We need help with flashbacks, fears, and trauma memories. We need to talk with people who truly understand the hardship of PTSD and the life-long impact of abuse. Each one of us finds support in different ways, so this blog is meant to list a bunch of resources you can pick...

How to Reduce the Pain of Grief in a Loving Way

Every survivor of abuse has experienced grief. It’s not always when a person leaves us or someone passes on—sometimes it’s the loss we feel over the fun childhood we never had. Or the betrayal of someone we thought loved us.  Grief is always complex—even more so when abuse is involved. Sometimes we attach to our abuser and feel devastated when they’re gone.  Or, other times, grief comes with anger…at our abusers or at the Universe for cursing...

How to Manage Stress in a Peaceful & Loving Way

There is one technique guaranteed to lower stress in any situation. It’ll help you discover the best solutions, prevent exhaustion, and reduce the fear you feel while facing any challenging experience. It will help you manage stress in a self-loving, empowering way. It makes sense to doubt a way to manage stress like this exists. What could possibly guarantee you’ll feel better in any overwhelming situation? It’s actually a surprisingly simple technique—and one that’s radically changed my...

Conquer Your PTSD Triggers: The Technique You Need to Know

PTSD triggers can sneak up almost anywhere, even in the most benign conversations or situations. And they can wreck our mood, day, or even send us into a crisis. It isn’t always the common topics, like abuse and violence, that send us into flashbacks or panic attacks. Sometimes, it’s a regular and everyday experience that reminds us of the trauma we faced.  Heck, cherry tomatoes have been a serious trigger for me before. Because PTSD triggers are so...

Overcome Self Doubt with these 25 Confidence Affirmations

Overcome Self Doubt with these 25 Confidence Affirmations

Wish you could believe in yourself, even in the face of criticism or doubt from others? Feeling hesitant about your decisions is normal after abuse. Your abuser had total control for a long time. It's logical that confidence is hard to find after the attacks you faced.  This list of 25 confidence affirmations can get you to a place of self-empowerment, even after your trauma. The impact it has on your life won’t stop you from becoming...

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