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How to Manage Stress in a Peaceful & Loving Way

There is one technique guaranteed to lower stress in any situation. It’ll help you discover the best solutions, prevent exhaustion, and reduce the fear you feel while facing any challenging experience. It will help you manage stress in a self-loving, empowering way. It makes sense to doubt a way to manage stress like this exists. What could possibly guarantee you’ll feel better in any overwhelming situation? It’s actually a surprisingly simple technique—and one that’s radically changed my...

Conquer Your PTSD Triggers: The Technique You Need to Know

PTSD triggers can sneak up almost anywhere, even in the most benign conversations or situations. And they can wreck our mood, day, or even send us into a crisis. It isn’t always the common topics, like abuse and violence, that send us into flashbacks or panic attacks. Sometimes, it’s a regular and everyday experience that reminds us of the trauma we faced.  Heck, cherry tomatoes have been a serious trigger for me before. Because PTSD triggers are so...

Overcome Self Doubt with these 25 Confidence Affirmations

Overcome Self Doubt with these 25 Confidence Affirmations

Wish you could believe in yourself, even in the face of criticism or doubt from others? Feeling hesitant about your decisions is normal after abuse. Your abuser had total control for a long time. It's logical that confidence is hard to find after the attacks you faced.  This list of 25 confidence affirmations can get you to a place of self-empowerment, even after your trauma. The impact it has on your life won’t stop you from becoming...

Trauma Survivor Self Care: 50 Ideas to Help You Through a Crisis

Trauma Survivor Self Care: 50 Ideas to Help You Through a Crisis

Us trauma survivors need self care to survive. But, it can be hard to think of the right method to use when we’re in the middle of a crisis—like a PTSD flashback or other symptom. This blog will provide you with a lifelong list of self care ideas, all meant to help your healing from abuse. (Other trauma survivors can definitely benefit from this too!) The list itself is broken up into 5 categories—helping you to discover...

4 Steps to Overcome Limiting Beliefs after Abuse

4 Steps to Overcome Limiting Beliefs after Abuse

Trauma leaves us with a bunch of limiting beliefs. These are subconscious patterns that inform how we see ourselves and the world. Things we believe.  Beliefs themselves aren’t bad, many are neutral or good. But some are damaging. They hold us back—limiting us. These, logically, are called limiting beliefs.  Every single person, with a history of trauma or not, has limiting beliefs. But, as survivors of abuse, ours are often more impactful than your average person who’s...

How to Find Self Acceptance after Child Abuse

How to Find Self Acceptance after Child Abuse

We can’t travel back in time and change our past…and this can cause a lot of despair. Difficult emotions may rage through you—scaring you and making it hard to find even one ounce of self acceptance. I get it. I truly, honestly do.  Loving ourselves in any capacity after abuse is hard—especially since that requires us to accept ourselves. That means accepting what happened to us and how it affects us today, including the tough emotions and...

In a dissociative crisis try these 4 grounding techniques

In a Dissociative Crisis? Try These 4 Grounding Techniques

Dissociation is a powerful coping mechanism. It’s our brain’s way of saying “Hey, this is too intense, so I’m gonna check out for a bit.” Unfortunately, that inner distance also detaches us from our life—leading us to feel miserable, depressed, and like we’re living in a dream. This where grounding techniques come into play.  They can bring us close to feelings and experiences in a safe, supportive way. Dissociation will dissolve. Your body and mind are processing...

Just left an abuser how to handle the doubt and grief

Just Left an Abuser? How to Handle the Doubt and Grief

Ah, the dreaded task of leaving an abuser…  Most likely, if you’re on this blog, you already have left the people who hurt you (or at least the most severe ones), but that doesn’t mean you feel great about your decision.  I bet you have some seriously complicated feelings around your choice to walk away. There’s a lot of emotion that goes into leaving an abuser. (I actually talked a ton about that grief right here) It’s natural...

How to overcome feeling suicidal with one simple exercise

How to Overcome Feeling Suicidal with One Simple Exercise

Feeling suicidal after abuse is extremely common. In fact, trauma is statistically one of the top reasons people take their own life.  I wanted to address this in a realistic and honest blog. Because I too have felt suicidal (as have my alters)—and I’ve been able to make it through. My hope with this blog is to help you do the same. I know that this technique won’t work for everyone, but I do hope you give...

coping with loss when you were hurt by that person

Coping with Loss When You Were Hurt by that Person

Coping with loss in general is tough, but even more so if that person was an abuser. Whether it was through their death or your conscious choice to leave them, grief is natural and expected. Though that doesn’t make it easy. So how do you handle it?  Especially when half the time you feel guilty for even having a sense of missing them? (After all—why miss someone who hurt you so much?) Well, there are some very logical...

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