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The 8 Growth Mindsets You Need to Thrive After Abuse

“Switch to a growth mindset.” That’s a popular thing you hear in the personal development field, isn’t it? At it’s core, the concept is beautiful. It challenges us to keep improving ourselves and our lives, in turn transforming the world around us. But for us survivors of abuse, it’s a more nuanced idea. Most “growth mindsets” are about no longer feeling emotional pain, or deciding to feel abundant and in love with life. And that’s super invalidating....

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How to Find Joy, Even When You Can’t Choose Happiness

We can’t just choose happiness, especially after surviving abuse and living with PTSD. But this can be disheartening. If you can’t choose happiness, how do you start to love life? How do you begin to feel good? A love for life is still something you can experience. You can still have wonderful days and great relationships. There are so many ways you can find joy. All without needing the ability to choose happiness. Let’s first...

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The True Meaning of “Being a Better Person”

How do you improve yourself after going through so much hardship? What does it even mean to be a better person, especially after surviving abuse? Trauma impacts us. It causes us to place judgements on others. We’ve become slow to trust. And when we think of being the best person we can be—it’s often nonjudgemental and believing everyone has pure intentions. That’s not how we came to see the world, though. After abuse, we saw the...

4 Life changing reasons to accept your PTSD diagnosis

4 Life-Changing Reasons to Accept Your PTSD Diagnosis

Feeling boxed in by your new PTSD diagnosis? Are you struggling to accept that you officially have a disorder? It is intense to receive this news! I definitely get it. I was absolutely shocked when I was first diagnosed with PTSD and dissociative identity disorder. We all know we’ve gone through trauma, but hearing a professional officially state it makes it far more real. And much more difficult to accept. I’m a big believer that...

How to stop feeling like a burden after abuse

How to Stop Feeling Like a Burden After Abuse

Feeling like a burden is normal when we’re disabled survivors of abuse. People tend to make huge issues about the accommodations we need. They shame us for still “holding on to our past.” And so so much more. This is all unfair. It’s ableism. But it doesn’t stop us from feeling like a burden—even when we know that society’s idea of us is wrong. Life after abuse is difficult and it has left us with valid...

Why your emotional strength is unstoppable

Why Your Emotional Strength is Unstoppable

You are so strong, whether you are happy or traumatized. Your emotional strength is unshakeable. You’ve survived so much and, even though this recovery is hard, I know you can survive it too. This entire video is a message about your infinite strength. It’s to inspire and uplift you, especially when you’re feeling weak or broken down. Emotional strength is not something that is only sometimes present. It isn’t defined by being able to force...

You'll heal when you take care of yourself

You’ll Heal When You Take Care of Yourself

The most powerful lessons in life come from the strangest sources. I definitely wasn’t expecting a broken toe to teach me something this incredible. Something I now hope will inspire you to better take care of yourself. Trauma recovery is exhausting. You’re recovering from a major injury, one on the inside. You can’t see the healing process, which can make it hard to stay motivated. Other people can’t see your hurt, which puts pressure on...

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What to Do When You’re Too Exhausted to Reach Your Goals

Too exhausted to reach your goals? When you’re fighting a daily battle in your mind, it can be hard for you to muster the energy to pursue your dreams. This is okay. It’s possible to reach your goals even when you’re tired. All it takes is a willingness to rest and recuperate, then consistent effort when you have energy. You don’t need to make forward progress every day. It’s not required to work every free second towards...

Overcome Feeling Like a Failure with This Loving Process

Overcome Feeling Like a Failure with This Loving Process

You ultimately get to decide what you believe and reject. And, with this power, you can free yourself from the pain of feeling like a failure. You can redefine success. You can honor all your accomplishments. Someone once told us what success and failure meant. It may have been our parents, trying to coach us on our career. It could have been advertisements or societal stigmas. Whatever the cause, we learned what “failure” and “success” meant...

Finding freedom from the fear of failure

Finding Freedom from the Fear of Failure

Failure is a natural and beautiful part of reaching our goals. It arises when we take the risks necessary to expand our lives, ourselves, and our world. This is why a fear of failure can significantly hold us back. It can keep us bound to a past we no longer want to be a part of. The fear of failure is so common because we see our shortcomings as a negative reflection on ourselves. We say...

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