4 Steps to Overcome Limiting Beliefs after Abuse

4 Steps to Overcome Limiting Beliefs after Abuse

Trauma leaves us with a bunch of limiting beliefs. These are subconscious patterns that inform how we see ourselves and the world. Things we believe.  Beliefs themselves aren’t bad, many are neutral or good. But some are damaging. They hold us back—limiting us....

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How to Find Self Acceptance after Child Abuse

How to Find Self Acceptance after Child Abuse

We can’t travel back in time and change our past…and this can cause a lot of despair. Difficult emotions may rage through you—scaring you and making it hard to find even one ounce of self acceptance. I get it. I truly, honestly do.  Loving ourselves in any...

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The Prosperity Path: How to Find Happiness After Abuse

The Prosperity Path: How to Find Happiness After Abuse

Three years ago, my therapist asked me, “Do you think you’ll be happy someday?” I thought about it for a moment before answering, “I don’t think so. Maybe I’ll learn to be okay and tolerate life, but I don’t think I’ll ever know how to find happiness.” I was so wrong....

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In a Dissociative Crisis? Try These 4 Grounding Techniques

In a Dissociative Crisis? Try These 4 Grounding Techniques

Dissociation is a powerful coping mechanism. It’s our brain’s way of saying “Hey, this is too intense, so I’m gonna check out for a bit.” Unfortunately, that inner distance also detaches us from our life—leading us to feel miserable, depressed, and like we’re living...

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Just Left an Abuser? How to Handle the Doubt and Grief

Just Left an Abuser? How to Handle the Doubt and Grief

Ah, the dreaded task of leaving an abuser…  Most likely, if you’re on this blog, you already have left the people who hurt you (or at least the most severe ones), but that doesn’t mean you feel great about your decision.  I bet you have some seriously...

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How to Overcome Feeling Suicidal with One Simple Exercise

How to Overcome Feeling Suicidal with One Simple Exercise

Feeling suicidal after abuse is extremely common. In fact, trauma is statistically one of the top reasons people take their own life.  I wanted to address this in a realistic and honest blog. Because I too have felt suicidal (as have my alters)-and I've been able...

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Coping with Loss When You Were Hurt by that Person

Coping with Loss When You Were Hurt by that Person

Coping with loss in general is tough, but even more so if that person was an abuser. Whether it was through their death or your conscious choice to leave them, grief is natural and expected. Though that doesn’t make it easy. So how do you handle it?  Especially...

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How to Survive the Most Intense Emotional Flashbacks

How to Survive the Most Intense Emotional Flashbacks

Ick. Emotional flashbacks. Easily the most difficult thing we face as survivors of abuse.  Emotional flashbacks are when an emotion comes out of nowhere. We might be enjoying a good book outside on a nice spring day…then bam! Suddenly we’re upset, scared, and...

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Design Your Destiny and Purpose of Life After Abuse

Design Your Destiny and Purpose of Life After Abuse

“What do I want to make with my life?” is quite literally the most powerful question you can ask yourself. Why? Well, it gives you the chance to define your own unique purpose of life.  When you feel like there is a purpose to life—a reason that you exist in this...

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How to Overcome the Burden of Generational Trauma

How to Overcome the Burden of Generational Trauma

Generational trauma is something every survivor of abuse should understand. If you don’t know what it is and how it affects your life, you’re setting yourself up for repeating toxic cycles. But—if you know what generational trauma is and you own up to facing its...

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Hi! I’m Arien

I’m a dreamer, healer, and optimistic soul…and a survivor of child sexual abuse. I created Uncover Your Joy to show you joy and peace are possible to find after trauma. I’m the founder of The Prosperity Path Program, and have reached almost 80,000 survivors with my blog!

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