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You’ll Transform Your Life When You Make an Impact

It doesn’t matter that you’re just one person. You are a powerful person and you can make an impact in the world. When you do this, you’ll be lighting up your own life too. Abuse is a difficult hand to be dealt. It leaves us with a lot of painful emotions, memories, and impacts, meaning that it’s tough to live a fulfilling and joyous life. But tough doesn’t mean impossible. When you choose to make...

Codependent Relationships: How to Avoid, Heal, and Prevent Them

Codependency has become a dirty word. It casts shame on a person, leaving them with the stigma of being “needy” or “draining” or “burdensome.” Being codependent, or being in a codependent relationship, does not make anyone a bad person. It’s true that codependency can be dysfunctional, but that doesn’t make the people in the relationship bad. Yet, if you find yourself being codependent, it can do a lot of harm to your life. It can push...

How to Make Letting Go of Someone (Like an Abuser) Easier

Letting go of someone means no longer feeling like they control your life. It means not spending every day wishing you could go back to them or believing what they did to you will limit your future forevermore. Letting go of someone, especially an abuser, is about more than just walking away. You have to start to separate from their lingering control of your life. This makes it easier to handle them no longer being...

Find Safe and Compassionate Love After Abuse

“Love after abuse.” It’s something every survivor wants and yet it also feels the farthest out of reach. How will someone come to love us with this ‘baggage?’ How do we build a relationship with someone who is actually good for us? These question are painful because, truthfully, these are blocking our way towards love. There will be people who will discard us as survivors. (As immoral and icky as that is.) Others may treat...

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The Most Healing Perspective on Life After Trauma

Do you wish there was a way to look back on your past with love? To have a perspective on life where you could acknowledge the trauma you faced, but also see your strength? It would allow you to no longer feel burdened by your trauma, without overlooking the real impact it had too. You’d be able to feel empowered in your potential to create a better future—rising from the ashes of your past like...

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Forgiving Yourself, No Matter the Mistakes You Make

Are you tired of hating yourself every time you make a mistake? It’s exhausting to feel worthless and hear self-deprecating thoughts. You don’t deserve it—you deserve to be forgiving yourself always and forever. Mistakes happen to every single human being. You’re trying your best, but sometimes you don’t have the insights or energy to do something perfectly. And that sometimes leads to a slip up. It’s rational to feel a bit bad about this. Guilt, honestly,...

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The 8 Growth Mindsets You Need to Thrive After Abuse

“Switch to a growth mindset.” That’s a popular thing you hear in the personal development field, isn’t it? At it’s core, the concept is beautiful. It challenges us to keep improving ourselves and our lives, in turn transforming the world around us. But for us survivors of abuse, it’s a more nuanced idea. Most “growth mindsets” are about no longer feeling emotional pain, or deciding to feel abundant and in love with life. And that’s super invalidating....

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How to Find Joy, Even When You Can’t Choose Happiness

We can’t just choose happiness, especially after surviving abuse and living with PTSD. But this can be disheartening. If you can’t choose happiness, how do you start to love life? How do you begin to feel good? A love for life is still something you can experience. You can still have wonderful days and great relationships. There are so many ways you can find joy. All without needing the ability to choose happiness. Let’s first...

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The True Meaning of “Being a Better Person”

How do you improve yourself after going through so much hardship? What does it even mean to be a better person, especially after surviving abuse? Trauma impacts us. It causes us to place judgements on others. We’ve become slow to trust. And when we think of being the best person we can be—it’s often nonjudgemental and believing everyone has pure intentions. That’s not how we came to see the world, though. After abuse, we saw the...

How to Genuinely Love Your Imperfections

Are you ruled by self-hatred immediately after noticing some flaw? It’s natural for us survivors of abuse to notice our imperfections the most—since our abusers trained us to do this. But, I’ve gotta say, this is not fun (and that’s an understatement). I’m here to remind you that you are so much more than your imperfections. In fact, I don’t even think these traits are flaws. There were times in your trauma where your abuser has...

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