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7 Astonishing Signs of a Bad Relationship

20.2.2019

Bad relationships can happen to any of us. Seriously, even a survivors of abuse who have a ton of experience with toxic relationships can be swept away by them. So, that's why it's important for us to consciously (highlight on that) know these seven key signs of a bad relationship. We know them in our subconscious…but, let’s face it. It’s easy to ignore that voice. These signs will jump between projecting emotions onto you, lacking accountability, and...

How to Love Yourself: The Actual Way Most Self-Help People Ignore

06.2.2019

Healing from Abuse, Self Love

“How to love yourself”—yep, this might not sound like all that original of a blog from the start. But I want to show you something super important, and I’ve only ever seen one other personal development leader talk about it. Loving ourselves is an art that becomes much trickier after surviving abuse. I also think, though, that it gives us an advantage in some ways. Because our abusers created such deep shame and self-hatred, we have to...

Why You Never Need to Forgive and Forget Abuse

30.1.2019

Empowerment, Healing from Abuse, Overcoming Hardship and Trauma, Relationships

You never have to forgive your abuser. You never have to forget or deny what you went through. If you want to share your story publicly, go ahead. If you want to hate the people who hurt you, you have every right. Don’t listen to the people who say “forgive and forget.” This advice usually comes with good intentions, but it’s hard to properly deliver it to a survivor of abuse. Since, well, it’s usually people...

It’s Okay to be a Survivor of Abuse who Lives in the Past

23.1.2019

Empowerment, Healing from Abuse, Overcoming Hardship and Trauma

Your past lives in you—you don’t live in the past. Trauma and abuse memories, like anything significant in life, sticks with us. There’s no shame in feeling like your past follows you around, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to handle either. Many of us survivors feel hopeless at the idea that our brains have literally changed as a result of abuse. Are we doomed to struggle with it forever? It’s true that trauma has changed us,...

The True Solution to the Winter Blues

09.1.2019

Coping Strategies, Living Fully, Stress Management

Winter can be such a tough season. The cold, the overcast, the lack of desire to go outside…or even get out of bed. Talk about the winter blues! My productivity, focus, and energy all drop by at least 40% in the winter, but it used to be at least 70%. I’d barely be able to function because of a mix of seasonal depression and physical symptoms…all brought on by the cold. The winter blues, or seasonal affective...

The Dangers of Forcing Yourself to be Too Happy

02.1.2019

Breaking Down Stigma, Joy

Glad 2019 is here? I think we’re all ready to move on from last year. It’s a time for new growth and happiness. Joy is a great goal to go after. In fact, it’s the foundation for my work…but that doesn’t mean it is immune to being unbalanced. It’s possible to be too happy. When us survivors have struggled for so long, it’s natural for us to grip tight to any good feelings we do get. Sometimes...

How to be Unconditionally Empathetic

12.12.2018

Coping Strategies, Empowerment, Relationships

With so many resources out there on empathy…why do we still struggle to be empathetic (both personally and as a society)? It’s all because we’re missing the first step—turning acceptance and understanding towards ourselves. If we deny ourselves empathy, we deny the world it too. I learned this technique in a really wacky, unconventional way, but it’s one of the most critical on my road to recovery. Without it, I don’t think I could cope with the...

The Astonishing Way to Turn Emotional Vulnerability Positive

05.12.2018

Empowerment, Healing from Abuse, Overcoming Hardship and Trauma

Emotional vulnerability is a beautiful and empowering thing. It can lead to authentic and healthy relationships, increase our own self compassion, and bring us to greater places in healing. After abuse, though, it can be challenging to face the raw emotions that come with recovery. Meaning that vulnerability can feel overwhelming and hard to handle, unless you know how to safely experience it. That’s what this video is for. I’ll show you how to make...

How to Ensure Space in a Relationship Doesn’t Destroy You

28.11.2018

Coping Strategies, Relationships, Stress Management

It can be a terrifying thing when someone says “I need space.” We start wondering if we did something wrong. Are they going to leave us? Are we unwanted? Space in a relationship is vulnerable for us survivors of abuse—but it is possible to reclaim it as a healthy thing. Every individual person has their own needs and sometimes that includes alone time. Often, when a need for space crops up, it’s completely unrelated to...

Invest in Yourself: How to Find Genuine Healing After Abuse

21.11.2018

Dreams and Goals, Empowerment, Healing from Abuse, Living Fully

Do you want to show your abuser that they didn’t win? That they don’t have control over your life? Then invest in yourself—in your healing, your joy, your prosperity. You deserve to have an amazing life and I know, firsthand, just how tough it can feel to get this after you’ve been abused. It seems like trauma will forever knock us down, limit us, and stop us from reaching our true potential. But this is...

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