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In a dissociative crisis try these 4 grounding techniques

In a Dissociative Crisis? Try These 4 Grounding Techniques

Dissociation is a powerful coping mechanism. It’s our brain’s way of saying “Hey, this is too intense, so I’m gonna check out for a bit.” Unfortunately, that inner distance also detaches us from our life—leading us to feel miserable, depressed, and like we’re living in a dream. This where grounding techniques come into play.  They can bring us close to feelings and experiences in a safe, supportive way. Dissociation will dissolve. Your body and mind are processing...

Just left an abuser how to handle the doubt and grief

Just Left an Abuser? How to Handle the Doubt and Grief

Ah, the dreaded task of leaving an abuser…  Most likely, if you’re on this blog, you already have left the people who hurt you (or at least the most severe ones), but that doesn’t mean you feel great about your decision.  I bet you have some seriously complicated feelings around your choice to walk away. There’s a lot of emotion that goes into leaving an abuser. (I actually talked a ton about that grief right here) It’s natural...

How to overcome feeling suicidal with one simple exercise

How to Overcome Feeling Suicidal with One Simple Exercise

Feeling suicidal after abuse is extremely common. In fact, trauma is statistically one of the top reasons people take their own life.  I wanted to address this in a realistic and honest blog. Because I too have felt suicidal (as have my alters)—and I’ve been able to make it through. My hope with this blog is to help you do the same. I know that this technique won’t work for everyone, but I do hope you give...

coping with loss when you were hurt by that person

Coping with Loss When You Were Hurt by that Person

Coping with loss in general is tough, but even more so if that person was an abuser. Whether it was through their death or your conscious choice to leave them, grief is natural and expected. Though that doesn’t make it easy. So how do you handle it?  Especially when half the time you feel guilty for even having a sense of missing them? (After all—why miss someone who hurt you so much?) Well, there are some very logical...

How to survive the most intense emotional flashbacks

How to Survive the Most Intense Emotional Flashbacks

Ick. Emotional flashbacks. Easily the most difficult thing we face as survivors of abuse.  Emotional flashbacks are when an emotion comes out of nowhere. We might be enjoying a good book outside on a nice spring day…then bam! Suddenly we’re upset, scared, and traumatized.  It’s like two big hands grip us and toss us around, squeezing our heart with some completely surprising and uncalled-for feeling.  And, boy do these feel out of control.  They’re easily the most unpredictable PTSD...

Design your destiny and purpose of life after abuse

Design Your Destiny and Purpose of Life After Abuse

“What do I want to make with my life?” is quite literally the most powerful question you can ask yourself. Why? Well, it gives you the chance to define your own unique purpose of life.  When you feel like there is a purpose to life—a reason that you exist in this world—you’ll feel ready to face each day. Even the days that are hard and tiring.  You won’t feel paralyzed by challenges. Obstacles will no longer seem...

How to overcome the burden of generational trauma

How to Overcome the Burden of Generational Trauma

Generational trauma is something every survivor of abuse should understand. If you don’t know what it is and how it affects your life, you’re setting yourself up for repeating toxic cycles. But—if you know what generational trauma is and you own up to facing its impact, to being the change in the cycle, you’re going to do amazing things. You’re setting yourself up for joy, prosperity, and peace. So what really is generational trauma? Abuse tends to be...

Loneliness after abuse: how to let go of toxic people

Loneliness After Abuse: How to Let Go of Toxic People

Loneliness is a part of being human, but it takes a greater toll on us survivors of abuse. We feel more isolated and dejected than your average person.  A break up for us might mean complicated grief or a rise in feelings of abandonment. The death of someone close seems like proof for the belief saying “we deserve to be punished.” Even our conscious decisions to leave those who hurt us brings unique grief. The feeling...

The #1 belief ruining your self esteem and how to fix it

The #1 Belief Ruining Your Self Esteem and How to Fix It

It's because of the abuse you faced that you have low self-esteem. It's not because of anything you did or who you are. But it feels like those two things are the reason right? Like there is something wrong with, well, you…?  That's because your abuser deliberately created a belief that you deserve to be hurt. They told you literally through words or their actions that you weren't worth anything.  That your role was to be hurt by...

Love life after abuse with these 3 simple steps

Life After Abuse: 3 Ways to Fall in Love with Every Moment

A great life after abuse. It kinda sounds like a foreign concept, doesn’t it? What does life even mean after you been attacked and harmed by another human being?  I get it. My life is not the same as it would have been if I had never been abused. In fact, part of life after abuse is facing that grief. Even more so, it's that wish that we had a different life. But, despite the pain you went...

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