Relationships After Abuse: You Can Find True Love
This blog is a compassionate and uplifting one, filled with hope for us survivors of abuse. It’s all about how we can find truly loving relationships after abuse, even when it feels like no one will be able to handle us and our ‘baggage.’ If you’re looking for the...
How to Stop Self Sabotaging Before It Ruins Your Life
Self sabotaging is something most of us survivors of abuse have done at some point in our healing journeys. Like when we finally get close to someone, then push them away even though it’s a good relationship. Or we miss therapy appointments, even though we know...
Feeling Stuck in Life After Abuse? 5 Things You Need to Do to Free Yourself
Abuse is impactful. Every one of us survivors knows this is true. Abuse leaves us with pains, struggles, illnesses, and a very long journey of recovery. It can leave us feeling stuck in life—since this healing path wasn’t one we chose or consented to. This knowledge,...
Find It Hard to Heal From Abuse? How to Stop Blaming Yourself
There was a viral post that went around Facebook a few months ago, about how it was harmful to say “Trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility.” That phrase had always rubbed me the wrong way, but I didn’t know why until I was a part of that...
What Is Psychogenic Pain? & How You Can Live a Good Life With It
Psychogenic pain is when we feel pain that isn’t caused from a physical source (like a cut, bruise, virus, inflammation, etc). It’s essentially when our brain interprets that we’re in pain, but there’s no direct cause of it. At least, not a visible one. Psychogenic...
3 Types of Meditation to Avoid as a Survivor of Abuse
Mindfulness is an almost essential practice when we’re recovering from a traumatic past. Whether it’s therapeutic techniques (like Dialectical Behavioral Therapy), straight up yoga practices, morning meditations, or reading The Power of Now—there’s some level of...
You are Capable of Finding Joy After Abuse—Here’s How to Start
Does past abuse ruin our chances of living a good life (let alone finding joy)? My vision of a “best life” was essentially being okay with waking up each day. No longer wanting to give up. Surviving. I didn’t think any more than that was possible. That sounded like...
The One Thing You Need to Successfully Break Bad Habits
Feeling trapped by a bad habit? Struggling to break it no matter how many apps, techniques, and strategies you use? Breaking bad habits can definitely be an uphill battle. You’re forcing your brain to completely rewire an old pattern—and our brains honestly don’t want...
How to Reclaim Peace After a Friend Betrayed You
Being betrayed by a friend is one of the most painful experiences we can have. Whether that’s them turning abusive, revealing a secret they promised to keep, or hurting us in some other way—it destroys the relationship we had with them. And that’s painful....
When to End a Friendship (& How to Do It Guilt-Free)
Ever had a friendship that made you feel uncomfortable? Someone you stress about spending time with…but they aren’t actually abusive? How do you know when to end a friendship that’s unpleasant like this? That’s the focus of this blog. I’ve talked lots about...
Hi! I’m Arien
I’m a dreamer, healer, and optimistic soul…and a survivor of child sexual abuse. I created Uncover Your Joy to show you joy and peace are possible to find after trauma. I’m the founder of The Prosperity Path Program, and have reached almost 80,000 survivors with my blog!
